For the Love of a Good Haircut

How far would you go for a good haircut?

Five miles? Ten miles? Three hundred miles?

What is it about a good haircut that brings us back to the same hair stylist over and over again? And why am I not brave enough to find someone closer to home?

Diana Beebe's Blog, Mermaids Don't Do Windows, Diana Beebe, science fiction, middle grade fantasy, fantasyHere’s the thing: I sit in his chair and say, “What do you think?” We talk about how much needs to be cut off (usually a lot). Then I say, “Make it so.”

I don’t really say, “Make it so.” Not in those words. I tell him that I want to be able to put it up if I need to—that’s my only requirement. Mostly, I give him free reign to do whatever the heck he wants to with my hair.

Would I do that in any other hair stylist’s chair? Yeah, no. I don’t think so.

We have 27+ years of history. He cut my hair and gave me the big ’80s perms when I was in high school (and college). I remember when he got married, had kids, and got divorced.

After I got married, I saw other stylists. A couple of them were those that I could have a seat and get a good hair cut and not pay out the nose. One time, I splurged and paid for an expensive cut. It was a good cut—too short, but good. I couldn’t go back to that guy, even though he was super nice and did a great job, because I hated the idea of paying that much money for a haircut.

Hey, we were poor in the early years of marriage. The idea of paying $75 plus a tip for a cut (no matter how good) made my skin crawl. Truthfully, it still does.

So, now my friends ask me what I’m going to do when I visit my parents, but they don’t let me answer. “Nevermind, you’re going to get your hair cut.” LOL.

It’s true. When I travel 300 miles to visit my parents, my mom makes an appointment for me to get my hair done. I get to hug my friend. He tells me about the things his adult children are doing. I tell him to do with my hair as he will. I trust that he’ll take care of me.

One time, my visit didn’t coincide with his schedule. He trains race horses and had a race on that Saturday afternoon. He came into town early Saturday morning to cut my hair.

Who does that?

I don’t get to see him as often as my hair needs to see him (or as often as my parents would like to see us). But when I do, I sit in that chair and say, “Make it so.”

What about you? Do you have a favorite hair stylist? Would you wait six months or more between cuts (yeah, not really a fair question for most men, I know) to be sure the right person did the job?

21 comments on… “For the Love of a Good Haircut”

  1. I know exactly how you feel. When we moved around to the other side of Lake Ontario, I spent a number of months traveling 5 hours to visit my stylist every 6-8 weeks. He understood my curly locks. We connected. Winter driving finally got the better of me, and I found someone locally. It took more than one attempt.

    I’m a huge advocate of sitting in the chair and saying, “Make it so.” Which is why my hair is 4 inches shorter than it was two weeks ago, deconstructed, and the front might be in the back and the back in the front. šŸ˜€ I’m kinda liking it. You have beautiful hair. Cheers!

    • Diana Beebe

      You’ve got me beat with that 5-hour drive! I’m glad you managed to find someone closer. It gives me hope! šŸ˜‰

      Thanks for the sweet compliment, too!

  2. I have lived in Tallahassee for fourteen years and without exception, one woman has cut my hair. Initially, I went to her because she “knew how to cut short hair,” which was absolutely true. Now, mine is almost shoulder length–she suggested the style when I wanted to go Ellen DeGeneres kind of short; my friend/salon owner knows my limitations–over the years, she has helped me deal with fine hair and outrageous cowlicks. I would not consider going elsewhere. Oh, and I have never paid over $35 for a haircut, and these days, I pay $20. Enjoyed the post.

    • Diana Beebe

      That’s the kind of price I look for, too! šŸ˜€ Thanks for stopping by, Karen!

  3. I’ve asked perfect strangers who cuts their hair. It just takes too long to grow out a bad cut, so I’m really careful with my hair. I had a friend ask me if her daughter could cut my hair for her beauty school test. I was horrified! I was like, sorry. No. LOL

    • Diana Beebe

      LOL. Smart to be cautious of the beauty school test. I mean, you’d hope she was ready and good enough to pass, but… :-O

  4. Adding a male perspective (and just one man’s, I strongly suspect mine is a minority view and generally unrepresentative of the ‘less fair’ sex) – I’m exactly the same way! I’m so grateful that my trusted Angela is at least a decade younger than I am so we can maintain this relationship for decades ahead (same with my dentist). Not so much with my GP, and I’m started to have those little twinges of ‘change anxiety’ as my body’s odometer keeps adding on the miles. My hair is thick, curly and coarse, so as it is growing longer, it also grows BIGGER (so very 80’s!) and the length become less an issue than the volume if we’re speaking of 6 months between haircuts. Could (and WOULD) do it if push came to shove and could get in to see Angela, but it would definitely require some self-maintenance like sideburn trims and a little thinning out to keep it from overtaking my head (smiles) – but only the type and amount of self-maintenance that Angela could easily undo/reverse at the next available appointment! It’s fun to know we share this ‘quality of loyalty’, Dear Diana…we shall never label it as anything less.

    • Diana Beebe

      I have visions of you with 6-month-long locks, because Angela was unavailable! Eeek! LOL Oh, let us never be parted from our trusted caretakers!

  5. I think the last time I got my hair cut was six months ago, but that’s just because I’m lazy and I love the feeling of cutting off LOTS of hair at once. I definitely need to get it done soon, because it’s getting to that really annoying phase where it’s touching my shoulders šŸ˜›

    My stylist is awesome, though. If he moved I might just travel even farther to see him (it’s quite a haul as it is). When we moved here it took me years to find a good stylist, and I’m not letting him go that easily šŸ˜‰

    • Diana Beebe

      Another awesome stylist worth traveling for! By the time I get to see my guy, the ends of my hair are usually straggly, and he cuts 6 or more inches off. I let him give me asymmetrical bangs this last time. It’s such a weird feeling, because I haven’t had any bangs for 20 years. No tucking behind the ear (at least for now). šŸ˜€

  6. I just had to comment on this post. I don’t color or highlight my hair. I don’t pay for mani/pedis much. I don’t spend a lot on makeup. So I don’t feel too bad that I spend a good penny for a good haircut.

    In fact, years back I was in a conversation with several women talking about the cost of their haircuts, and compared to what they were paying, I was embarrassed to admit how much I shoveled out. But honestly, with super-straight, fine hair like mine, I can’t get away with an iffy cut. Even so, I wish I was still seeing the guy I went to when I was a teenager and in college. He knew my hair, did a fabulous job, and even kept my price low when he raised his prices for everyone else. Wonder whatever happened to him… My whole family moved away. Glad you can still see your magic worker!

    • Diana Beebe

      I think if I didn’t fret about getting an iffy cut, I’d pay more, too. I’m too chicken to find someone here and then hate my hair. I’m glad you’ve found the right match!

  7. Sadly, the reality for me is that no matter the haircut, I am terrible at trying to make a style out of it once washed! Your post is giving me hope that maybe it isn’t me and I have just never had the right cut? Stopping by from a-z

    • Diana Beebe

      Hi, Andrea! It’s nice to meet you! I don’t always get my hair to do what my stylist does with it either, but he does give me ideas of things I can do with it after the next wash. A good cut definitely makes a difference. I’d say blame the cut and not yourself. šŸ˜‰

  8. I wear my hair long, and haven’t had it cut in several years. Just thought I’d mention it.

    My grandmother had a hairdresser for years. He had been injured in World War II and was told to find something that would force him to use his hands. He used to come to her house every couple of months to color and style her hair. He had a big clientele at one time, then got another job and got out of the hairdressing business, but kept my grandmother on as a client. I think she outlived him, as a matter of fact. She wouldn’t let anyone else do her hair until he was gone.

    Mom and her last stylist were very close. When Mom died, we had to call the stylist to find out the color she used on Mom’s hair, and the woman was just beside herself; they had really gotten close. She insisted on coloring and styling Mom’s hair. She didn’t want anyone else to do it.

    • Diana Beebe

      Oh, wow, John, that’s incredible history that your mom and grandmother had with their stylists! What a sweet thing your mom’s hairdresser and friend did for her (and your family). I’m sure it gave her a way to say goodbye to her, too. So, with your own hair, do you keep it in a ponytail or braid to help keep it tidy?

  9. Wowsers! That’s a long history with a stylist! You’ve been fortunate. My sister has traveled hundreds of miles, too, so our other sister could cut her hair. For some reason, this sister has had the worst luck with hair stylists. She tells them what she wants, but they just do their own thing, and then she’s miserable. I’m amazed at all the lousy cuts she’s endured.

    My main comment is also to keep my hair long enough that I can put it in a ponytail. I not only don’t like doing my hair, but I have very little free time to mess with things like hair and makeup. Usually drag myself out of bed at 6:30 (after hitting the snooze button for a half hour), so that gives me 15 minutes to throw some clothes on, wash my face, do a quick ponytail, and rush over to babysit.

    I’m kind of excited, though, because my youngest is going to beauty school, so I’ll be getting free haircuts for the rest of my life. And even if I live to be 100, she’ll still owe me another lifetime of free haircuts. And free styling, too! And a manicure and pedicure here and there will be nice, too! Dang, I’m going to be so spoiled! šŸ™‚

    • Diana Beebe

      I have been very fortunate. I’m sorry your sister hasn’t had much luck–at least she a sister to go to. And speaking of relatives in the business, I’m a little bit jealous! A lifetime of haircuts!
      “Lucky!” *In my best Napoleon Dynamite voice*

  10. I still see the same hairdresser, too, even though I moved…but it’s only about 40 miles away and not 300 at least. šŸ˜‰ I had gotten a super terrible haircut at a cheap place about 6 months before my wedding, and I managed to grow it out some and went to my friend’s hairstylist to see if he could do anything with it. Well, he worked some sort of fancy hair magic, and ever since then, I only go to him. It’s been almost 8 years now and he never lets me down!

    Your hair looks great, btw! šŸ™‚

    • Diana Beebe

      At least you had a few months to grow it out before your wedding! What a close call! I’m glad that worked out for you. šŸ™‚ And thank you for the sweet compliment!

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