Never Cutting My Hair Again

Have you ever had a hair stylist who was just perfect?

I did. I’m sad to say that he passed away recently. He was young–only 57 and a brand new grandfather. He’d taken care of my hair since high school when he gave me my big hair perms and trendy hair cuts in the ’80s.

My mother called to give me the sad news. My brother and I chatted later. He admitted that the first thing he thought when he heard was that I would never cut my hair again and would look like Crystal Gale (or worse…see below).

Strangely, a version of “so I’m never gonna dance again” floated through my brain as “so I’m never gonna cut my hair.”

I can only imagine what my hair would look like if I never cut it again. I have the image in my head, and it’s about as lovely as the nightmares my siblings and I have about an ex-aunt who had auburn hair as long as Crystal Gale’s, only not as nicely conditioned…

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*shiver* But my sister and I were cute.

My hair guy was genius. Even in high school, I would let him cut my hair any way he wanted. I trusted him and he never let me down.

My family received the happy coincidence of living in the same town where he operated his business. Yes, I drove 300 miles to have my hair done two or three times a year. The family time was a bonus. 🙂

Once my gentle, steadfast cowboy of a hair stylist took time out of one of his busy horse racing weekends to cut my hair when I was in town. Even though he had a couple of horses racing that afternoon, he drove into town early that morning on his day off to see me. (I posted about that here.)

Training horses was his life, but cutting hair was fun for him, something to keep himself busy when he wasn’t with the horses and a place to socialize with friends. His clients loved him.

The last time I saw him was in March. I told him to do something different. “Make it so.” I have to admit, the new ‘do freaked me out. It wasn’t a drastic change, but it was enough to make me think I’d never get it right.

But perfect strangers gave me compliments and caught me off guard with nice remarks. How could I have doubted his skill?!

So out of love and respect for him, I will get my haircut again as soon as I find a new stylist. I may trim a little on my own in the meantime, because the alternative gives me shivers and would make my friend haunt my dreams.

Rest in peace, dear friend. I’ll miss you.

Do you have a hair stylist you love and stay loyal to? What hair stories do you have? How often do you get your ‘do done?

16 comments on… “Never Cutting My Hair Again”

  1. Bigs hugs to the family of your stylist. He sounds like a wonderful man.

    I’ve yet to find anyone who can do my hair the way I want it. I recently thought I’d found The One,even though I had to sit through her hectoring me to let her put a $300 treatment on my hair every time I went to her. But I guess she got tired of my refusals to spend that much money on my hair at one time, and the last time I went to her she freakin’ butchered my bangs. It looked like a toddler on a sugar high had cut my hair. So now I’m on the hunt for someone new, but it’s hard to find a hairstylist who understands the word “trim.” My hair is down to my waist (with the exception of my bangs) and I want to keep it there. Most stylists want to lop off about two feet of it. *sigh* Until I find someone trustworthy, I’ll keep my bangs out of my eyes with my cuticle scissors and hope I don’t botch it too badly.

    • Diana Beebe

      Thanks, Juli! He was wonderful and deeply missed by many.

      Long hair isn’t easy to take care of, but I’m sure you’ll find someone who will keep it trimmed nicely. I’m sorry to hear about the toddlerish cut–great description, by the way–that would have been the end of it for me, too. {{{HUGS}}}

  2. There are people in our lives we just assume will always be there. It can be a shock to the system to lose them. I have had great hair dressers and some horrible one that make me appreciate the good ones even more. I have very fine soft hair – I warned the new hair dresser that she could leave the perm in for the normal amount of time (yes this was the 80s) She didn’t think I knew what I was talking about and – guess what? About 40% of my baby fine hair broke off. UGH I was in high school. I cried and cried.
    Prayers and thoughts of love to the family of your horsemen hair dresser. Sounds like a wonderful man.

  3. Good hairstylists, like good men, are very hard to find. So sorry for your loss and I wish you the best of luck in finding the next good one!

  4. So sorry to hear about your friend. And yes, I have a hair stylist that I am faithful to. She’s cut my hair for 26 years and gave my son his first hair cut and his last before he moved to Los Angeles. She’s my age and we chat about so many things while she’s cutting my hair. She loves my books and keeps them at her station and shows them to her other customers! I guess my faithfulness has made her faithful to me as well. 🙂

    • Diana Beebe

      I love how special friendships like yours has stayed strong! Thanks for sharing!

  5. Aw. Your stylist sounds like a real treasure, and I’m sorry for your loss. A good stylist is hard to come by. I traveled 5 hours round trip for over a year before I was able to find someone to replace my fave stylist. Once I find someone who gets my hair, the sky is pretty much the limit for them. I just let them experiment. It’s hair. It grows. I know. Crazy, huh?

    • Diana Beebe

      Thanks, Elen! Not crazy at all! There is something amazing about having that kind of faith and trust in someone with sharp scissors–even if it does grow back. 😉

  6. Aww. I’m sorry to hear that, but how lucky that you had a friend – and a stylist you could trust. I wish I could find someone like that. The last time I tried – August – I said, “Take about three inches off.” I guess ten inches isn’t too far away from three … if you’re using a 25′ measuring tape. That same kind of thing has happened enough that I’ll go a couple of years between trims/cuts because no matter what I ask for, they do what they want anyway. Wish I’d known your stylist.

    • Diana Beebe

      Thank you, Kristy! And wow–how could that stylist have missed measuring by so much?! Not good. 🙁

  7. Diana, I know exactly who you are talking about. Marty was my Hair Genius also. He will be missed for sure. He was one of a kind, such a really nice man. God Bless you Marty.

    • Diana Beebe

      Donna, that is a great title for him: “Hair Genius”! Thanks for sharing with me.

  8. So sorry about your wonderful stylist. It sounds like he was a wonderful person — and a talented one, too. This was such a lovely tribute to him.

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