Tweaking Time to End Regrets

In many time traveling stories a character changes something with good intentions only to realize later that the time tweak resulted in the very thing he or she had tried to improve or prevent.

Time tweaking. If I had a way to travel back in time, what would I tweak?

We are who we are because of decisions, good or bad, that we make. The essence of ourselves is tied directly to what we learned the decade, year, day, minute before.

Diana Beebe's Blog, Diana Beebe, science fiction, middle grade fantasy, fantasyIn the movie This Means War, the character called FDR learned from the grandmother who raised him that he should never regret a decision. That decision made him who he is.

I know this movie has nothing to do with time travel, but I love this wonderful philosophy. Let go of things we regret in our pasts. Accept who we are now. Know that we will continue to learn and grow, even if we make new, bad decisions. Hopefully, we learn to make better choices along the way.

Back to the question of tweaking time. If time travel were possible, would I go back to fix something that I regretted? Would my life have been better if I went back to the end of my freshman year in college to change my roommate selection for the next year?

I might have had a better housing situation. If so, I wouldn’t have driven home every few weeks to do laundry. I wouldn’t have had a rabbit poop on my bed. I might have decided that I could afford a yearbook.

That’s a lot of would’ve, should’ve, could’ve going on. That’s what we do when we look back and regret something that we did in the past.

My biggest regret from that year was that I didn’t buy the stupid yearbook. Weird.

While I was devastated that we had stopped being friends, it had become a relationship that wasn’t going to make me a better person. There was nothing that I could’ve done to make her life easier, besides ignoring that she’d stolen underwear from me. Yeah, I didn’t want those back.

Perhaps instead of time tweaking my roommate selection, I would time tweak to be sure that she understood how much the ATM bank fees were or that she’d packed underwear. (True story.) With hindsight as a guide, I’d find out how I could’ve been a better friend. That begs the question: Would any of these tweaks have made a difference?

Of course, there’s no way of knowing, so there’s no point in regretting (even the yearbook).

If you could tweak time, would you? If so, what thing would you go back to change—or not?

4 comments on… “Tweaking Time to End Regrets”

  1. I wrestle with this all the time–reviewing my past mistakes and wishing I could change them. I used to say, “I’d rather regret something I did than something I didn’t do.” That’s until I did the thing I’ve regretted more than any other in my life. And I regret it so much, it was so bad, that I can’t write about it. I don’t know that I’ll ever be able to let that one go. Just when I think I have, something will remind me and I’m right back in it. I just try and focus on the present because as much as I’d like to tweak time on this one, I’ll never get the chance.

    • Diana Beebe

      Overcoming my regrets is an on-going process. It’s getting easier to see that I have to let those go and accept who I am now. Big hugs to you for even talking about the one you can’t talk about. I’ve got at least one of those.
      Focusing on the present, the right now, is the only way out of that trap called regret. Now that I think about it, we have to forgive ourselves, don’t we? Let’s try to do that.

  2. I wouldn’t go back and change anything because then I’d lose the lessons learned. I wouldn’t be ME. Did you ever see that STNG episode where Picard gets a chance to redo a mistake and it changes his life. Instead of captain, he’s an ensign or something. It’s pretty interesting, because our choices shape us in so many ways. 🙂

    • Diana Beebe

      That is something I’m trying hard to embrace. I love that episode when he realizes that he wouldn’t have made captain without that mistake. That is such a great example, Pauline! Thanks!

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